Well, it’s over. The food has been consumed. The gifts have been opened, the wrapping paper collected, the dishes washed (for the eighth time), and the memories have been made. This was one of the good ones.
Here’s what I LOVED about our family Christmas:
I loved that every single gift that was given was perfect for the receiver. Now, before you perhaps misunderstand, gifts are kept to a minimum in our family and have been for many years now. I’ve worked very hard to teach my children by example that we don’t believe that Christmas is about the insanity of greed that we believe it has become in our culture, but that it is most importantly about Jesus and spending time with the people we most love in the world. I regress… What was so lovely to me about this part of our holiday was that it was obvious we all chose gifts that we put a lot of thought into. There was the joy in being truly known and loved deeply around our Christmas tree.
I felt so blessed to have 2 days full of yummy food, and that much of it was healthy and lots was not, but all of it was delicious. We are a foodie family, which means that great food and drink are the foundation on which we build our time together. It brings a satisfaction to everything when we are assembled. Shrimp diablos, a lazy susan overrun with cheese of various origins, ribeyes on the grill, smoothies, shrimp cocktail, smashed redskins, broiled asparagus, lime bars, quiche, peanut butter kisses, oatmeal brulee’ with granny smith apples & cranberries, dark fudge with walnuts, Christmas sangria, veggies in every color imaginable, eggnog, guacamole, frappuccino, pico de gallo, monkey bread with fresh raspberries, blueberries, & blackberries, and of course, green bean casserole.
Opening gifts on Christmas eve, sleeping in on Christmas morning, green & red oatmeal brulee’, stockings in the morning, grazing all afternoon while watching A Christmas Story in comfy clothes and no makeup, piled all over each other, with cell phones turned off.
Listening to our children laugh uproariously late on Christmas eve because they’re making a video of one of them dancing with abandon while I lie in bed with tears streaming down my cheeks praising Him for this undeserved moment of heavenly joy.
Being reminded of days gone by when our “baby” still wakes up a little grumpy because he’s (ALWAYS) hungry, another wakes up looking, just for a moment, like the little imp you held each morning so many years ago (or was that yesterday?), and yet another practically glows because her love language is quality time and she knows she still has a full day of it with the people she loves most in this world.
There’s something about great conversation. It feeds my soul in a way not a lot of other things do. I find it interesting that some of my best nourishment comes from conversations with my adult children. They are some of the rare people I’ve experienced quality exchanges with. We have varying opinions about some topics that many people avoid – politics, religion, homosexuality, abortion, etc. – and we have this beautiful way of hearing each other. Sometimes it gets heated and we don’t always do this perfectly, but when we have one of our really beautiful exchanges of words, it just blesses me right down to the core of my being. There is something about acceptance and respect that is highly underrated, in my opinion. It’s a gift to have multiple opinions vying to be heard and not have anyone feel the need to “play devil’s advocate” just to feel superior or not have anyone make up “facts” from the articles they can’t recall the name of, but they swear they’ve read to backup their argument, and it’s especially wonderful to not have anyone take cheap, disrespectful shots when they aren’t “winning” the “argument.” (All things I’ve experienced with less rare people who I’ve had not-so-quality exchanges with.) It’s freeing when you realize that your objective isn’t to sway others to your own opinion, but to be heard and understood as well as hear and understand. It’s also more than a little difficult when you first realize your children no longer follow your beliefs blindly, but have their own opinions and some of them may go directly against what you value deeply. Don’t get me wrong… It’s glorious, too, witnessing your offspring come into his/her own, but dealing with this growth in your child, nudges you to (somewhat painfully) grow a bit, too.
I woke up two days ago and asked Him to help me focus on all of my blessings and to have peace about the decisions others have made that have affected me painfully. Holidays have not typically been something I’ve looked forward to in the past. I’ve had a bunch of those ones that people make memes about, dark comedic movies about or SNL skits about. But this year was different, because I had a really wonderful Christmas. I received gifts from my husband and children that screamed, “You are known and loved.” He gave me joy, peace and love in abundance. He gave me a slew of memories that I will continue to be blessed by, day after day and year after year. I feel like I grew a little because I am learning that holidays don’t look the same to everyone and what ruins those special days for me isn’t that the days are bad, it’s that they don’t look like my mind expects them to – and that if I allow Him to lead the way, the day looks exactly like it should and that’s much better than what my mind expected. This Christmas was more than I could’ve hoped for and definitely much more than I deserve.