There are so many things I adore about you, but as nearly three decades have come and gone, I find that I much too often take an abundance of your goodness for granted. Part of my resolution is to be a better wife, less critical of you, so that you can walk more fully in the joyful identity God has for you. As I’ve prayed about how I can best become more of who He calls me to be as your wife, I’ve asked Him to see you through His eyes and not my own critical eyes. I believe He’s been bringing to mind some of the many loving qualities and actions of yours that I’ve overlooked recently. This is just a small sampling of the ways you bless me and others who know you.
It doesn’t go un-noticed that you always clean up the food and dishes when our kiddos are over for dinner or almost anytime we have dinner guests, while I visit and relax.
When you share story after story of the people you bless during your work day or at band gigs, my heart sings. You are such a tenderhearted man and I love your generosity with people who cross your path. I love that you have so many homeless friends in Austin, that you don’t simple give money to, but that you invest in them and know about their lives because you choose to spend time and pour into them. When you tell me any of your many stories of special people who ride your duck tour and “drive” on the water, perhaps for the first and/or only time in their lives, and your eyes brim with tears, my heart just leaps in my chest and I thank God you are my husband.
It means the world to me that when I work my 11 hour day once a week, you have dinner all ready when I walk through the door. Exhaustion and a yummy home-cooked meal are fast friends.
I love how much you love our children. Even though they are all grown and out of the house, you still work so hard everyday because you want to provide things for your babies (and me). Your dedication to all of us makes my heart sing. You are truly the hardest working person I’ve ever known, but you are not a workaholic. You work to live and enjoy life with your family and I’m thankful for the example you are to our children.
One of my favorite things about this more “mature” version of us is that you are happy to stay home with me, watching a movie and cuddling is a treat. When we were younger, you wanted to be on-the-go all of the time, being the extrovert of our union, and I would go along, but it was almost always a stretch for me. I’m thankful that I have fun with you whether we are out on a date or hanging at home. You are my favorite person to spend time with.
Thank you for always telling me that you think I’m beautiful and meaning it. Thank you for encouraging me to discover my calling. Thank you for being so patient with me as I wallow around in the muck trying to leave my grumpy self behind. Thank you for valuing my opinion. Thank you for putting up with me. I know it’s not always easy, but your love has brought me a peace that I had never known. Thank you for reacting to (almost) every meal I make as though I am Martha Stewart. Thank you for cheerfully trying all of my organic, paleo, keto, gluten-free, vegetarian, etc. etc. recipes.
Thank you for loving me.